Fenny’s Fun Pensieve

Definition of platonic love is love beyond physical attachment, the existence of love despite impossibilities and challenges. According to Wikipedia, platonic love in its modern popular sense is an affectionate relationship into which the sexual element does not enter, especially in cases where one might easily assume otherwise. A simple example of platonic relationships is a deep, non-sexual friendship between two heterosexual people of the opposite sexes.

Often manifestaton of such love is not marriage, however it is not lesser in value. The famous platonic known to the world is Kahlil Gibran’s love story. One may argue that his works of love would not have been so inspiring had he not been deeply in love with May Ziadeh, a woman he never married to nor met in person.

I’ve been thinking about this platonic love since my early adolescence and always wondered if such love even exists. And now I can say to you all : Beware of what you wish for! *evil grin*

I’m pretty much in platonic love with a guy miles away from me. We develop our bond of friendship (if I have the privilege to say so) evenmore when we’re distance apart. Somehow it’s true that when you have the vibe, you have it. It doesn’t matter if the person is even non-existent or very different to you (an alien?!). You know what? My head is battling with my heart, my logic has been torn apart… Still, I can smile and be grateful to God for what He has given me.

Maybe I won’t see him for the rest of my life, maybe we will still keep in touch even after we marry to others, maybe he will be my bestfriend for life, maybe we’re falling apart, maybe I’m losing my sanity… *tragic sigh*

Too many maybe’s, too many insecurities, too little faith, too little understanding, too much love… That’s my definition of platonic love.

My friend, Rommel says that platonic love is pure and unconditional…it’s the feeling that matters, not what you get out of it.

Ragini Puri emphasizes it well.

‘A traditional and conservative society like ours looks on platonic relationships with suspecting eyes. It wonders whether in a friendship, physical attraction between the friends of opposite sexes can be sidestepped, whether platonic relationships – love and friendship without sexual alliance - can exist between a man and a woman. What they fail to understand is that platonic love is actually the sublimation of sexual urges into other forms of desires and attraction. It is love that looked beyond physical bodies to pure thoughts and intellectual stimulation.’

Whether you agree or disagree, check out this one.. You can say it’s tragic. I’d say it’s beautiful.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup, but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread, but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping;

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together;

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

- From The Prophet